A collaborative space to work through the specific challenges that come with living and loving outside of what’s “normal.”
Coaching
A collaborative space to work through the specific challenges that come with living and loving outside of what’s “normal."
What is Relational Coaching?
It might seem like a misnomer to say “1:1 relational coaching,” but you can’t fully separate relational work from self work. The patterns you play out with partners, metamours, and friends tie back to how you see and relate to yourself. It’s all connected, and it’s all contextual.
In this coaching container, we take a look at where you are right now and where you want to go in your relationships. Beginnings, endings, transitions, detours, pauses, conflicts—we work together to navigate the complexity of being relational creatures.
You might find yourself here because…
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This can be especially relatable for those trying to deprogram monogamy. It runs deep and can be confusing and challenging to ditch the relational template (i.e., to step off the “relationship escalator”) and start customizing your relational agreements.
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You love your friends and value their insight, but it feels weird and ineffective to rely on their solutions for your struggles. You want to be able to hear and trust your own voice.
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You can analyze your emotions from every angle, but you feel stuck on how to translate all that awareness into changes that actually stick. You have the insight, now you need the action.
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Everyone else seems to have things figured out. You’re worried that your jealousy, anxiety, frustration, and confusion means you aren't "cut out" for this. You’d like to be able to better understand your reactions, where they show up in your body, what activates them, and why.
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You catch yourself trying to be the "Chill Partner" who never gets jealous, or you worry that you aren't “enough” when it comes to how you express your queerness or engage with your version of nonmonogamy. You want to put down everyone else's expectations of how and who you should be.
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You withhold certain details in, say, therapy or with friends, because you don’t have the energy to explain certain parts of yourself to someone who doesn't get it. That, or it straight up doesn’t feel safe to do so. You’re looking for a place where you know that you’ll be seen and understood.
Getting started.
We start with a free 45-minute Connection Call.
This gives us a chance to start sorting out what you want to work on and how we’ll work together.
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What happens in a session?
What happens in a session?
Every session is different, of course. Each is guided by what you need and want in the moment. However, here’s a little sample:
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We pause the thoughts and bring some attention to your physical and emotional experience.
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Best not to believe everything we think. We take those paused thoughts and figure out what’s fact and what’s fear.
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We experiment with tools that help you feel grounded and soothed in more emotionally challenging moments. And if (when?) it doesn’t work as planned? All good. We can talk about what worked and what didn’t—and why—and try something different next time.
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We role-play* the conversations you’re avoiding so you can get more comfortable saying what’s on your heart.
*I know role plays can be awkward and terrible—I did a lot in my coaching training and still do a lot in grad school—but I think they’re also so helpful. However, consent is the priority. If you don’t want to, I won’t make you.
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We look at your current agreements, boundaries, and commitments to see if and how they’re serving you and your relationships. If they aren’t, we’ll look at what might be able to change.
Ways to work with me
Change takes time, and most folks will benefit from the consistency of weekly sessions. I offer a couple options for working together that account for that.
3 Months—
Weekly Coaching
This is for 12 weekly sessions. We’ll look at what is and isn't working for you right now in your relationships, clarify how you’d like things to be, and then start working with and clearing away the stuff that might be getting in your way, keeping you stuck.
6 Months—
Weekly Coaching
Like the 3 Month option, just longer. We use this extra time to keep the momentum going once you start seeing shifts in yourself and your relationships. It ensures you have support with your new day-to-day reality—and the goals that come with it.
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Each weekly session is 60 minutes (unless otherwise negotiated), and will be held over Zoom.
Between sessions, I often share relevant exercises, worksheets, or prompts to support what we’re working on.
Pricing: I offer tiered pricing for both coaching packages—please see below.
Payment plans are available.
Let’s talk about pricing.
Let’s talk about pricing.
I’m committed to building a practice that is both accessible and sustainable. I use a managed sliding scale to ensure that access to coaching isn't limited by wealth.
This is a community-supported model. The higher tiers subsidize the lower tiers. Payment plans are available.
Here’s the breakdown:
Let’s talk about pricing.
I’m committed to building a practice that is both accessible and sustainable. I use a managed sliding scale to ensure that access to coaching isn't limited by wealth.
This is a community-supported model. The higher tiers subsidize the lower tiers. Payment plans are available.
Here’s the breakdown:
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Supporter Tier: $3,600
This is for those who can and wish to “pay-it-forward”. Choose this if you are financially secure (e.g., you have a solid financial safety net, ample expendable income, or higher earning power) and you’d like to help other folks in the community get support. The extra money allows me to maintain low-cost spots for folks experiencing financial hardship.Sustainer Tier: $2,100
This reflects the market value of the time, training, and experience I bring to our sessions. If you can pay this price without it impacting your ability to meet your monthly needs, this is the right tier for you.Balance Tier: $1,560
This is for folks who are meeting their basic needs but have limited expendable income. Paying at this rate might require making a conscious trade-off in your budget (like eating out less this month), but it would not create a financial hardship.Community Tier: $1,080
If paying the full price would be a significant hardship or impact your ability to pay rent, buy food, or access medicine, this tier is for you. Limited spots available; waitlist applies when full. -
Supporter Tier: $7,200
This is for those who can and wish to “pay-it-forward”. Choose this if you are financially secure (e.g., you have a solid financial safety net, ample expendable income, or higher earning power) and you’d like to help other folks in the community get support. The extra money allows me to maintain low-cost spots for folks experiencing financial hardship.Sustainer Tier: $4,200
This reflects the market value of the time, training, and experience I bring to our sessions. If you can pay this price without it impacting your ability to meet your monthly needs, this is the right tier for you.Balance Tier: $3,120
This is for folks who are meeting their basic needs but have limited expendable income. Paying at this rate might require making a conscious trade-off in your budget (like eating out less this month), but it would not create a financial hardship.Community Tier: $2,160
If paying the full price would be a significant hardship or impact your ability to pay rent, buy food, or access medicine, this tier is for you. Limited spots available; waitlist applies when full. -
The Sustainer Tier is the default investment. However, during our Connection Call, you will have the opportunity to select a different tier if that better reflects your financial reality. I trust you to know your situation and self-select accordingly.
If you are unfamiliar with this kind of sliding scale, please review the Green Bottle Method. It’s a helpful tool for understanding your financial capacity beyond just your income.
If these prices are still a barrier: Please don’t let money be the reason you don't reach out. Let’s talk. If I can't support you directly, I may be able to point you toward other resources or referrals that can.
Still have questions?
Check out the FAQ or reach out for more info!